I have so many things that have really bothered me lately about the so called child protection services. And it has to do more with their claims than anything. As cps claims millions of calls have come in about child abuse, during this very line to plead for more money, they do not tell people that many of these calls are unfounded and in retaliation.
The true numbers of child abuse are actually way down. And of course the number of neglect cases are way up. But let's look at what they consider neglect. As a child is moved around from place to place because parents are struggling financially cps steps in to remove the kid because of lack of stability.
But look at what cps and the foster care system provides for these children, many moved once or twice every six month. (One girl had been moved over forty times in her life of foster care) the lack of stability and structure in these children's lives are appalling and this is their response for a loving family who is in a financial crises.
The child had already been dealing with struggle but had the strength and love of the family, yet suddenly ripped up and taken away permanently traumatized with a lack of security and (here I want to call it a shield from the outside world, a child no longer believes his parents can protect them from anything)
Removed from everyone, school, friends, grandparents, aunts and uncles some of the most important people in a child's life. And placed with complete strangers (afraid to really trust anyone) held captive away from their family they become angry, depressed withdrawn, (an emotional wreck) and for this normal response they are labeled and placed on medication for their best interest.
And from one excuse to another through the courts ever burdened large case loads (caused by this abuse of power) and cps claims of their ever burdening case loads (ditto on why) the children are held in a purgatory of this system abuse. Remaining on medications they shouldn't be on (without their parents permission) being subjected to sometime traumatic and unjust counseling sessions (my position stands here as I was told since I was molested I would molest in one of their therapy sessions, it broke my heart, I've learned better
Dear cps just because you get mugged doesn't make you a mugger lay off your junk therapy)
Every day children beg to see and hear from their parents, wanting to hear that their parents are trying everything to win back the child's freedom. But sadly parents are not allowed to tell their children this because cps claims the parent should not give the child false hopes. Again how cruel. Leaving the child in such a confusing state continually visiting and walking away and as the child begs the parent to take them home all the parent is allowed to say is I love you. (THIS IS NOT ENOUGH FOR THE CHILD)
As the bond and closeness of the family slips away because cps holds on to the child for so long it becomes a struggle to reunite and bond these family members are no longer the same, pain and stress has taken its toll on the parents in court and the child is so use to closing people out that all this creates a new burden on the family. (But no one including me would ever tell cps this or they would use it as an excuse to hold on to the child longer)
Here I have to tell you of a very loved happy little girl. She'd shown such great signs of intelligence eager to start school soon and very happy with her family. She was ripped away by cps with the excuse of failure to thrive. (No she wasn't malnourished, but she was extremely hyper and happy and her mother is only five foot) because this adorable little girl was short and skinny cps took her away and placed her first in a foster care and then to her paternal grandmother's home.
In court she was then described as inconsolable, she begged everyone to take her home to her mom and dad (the caseworker claimed the child had been couched even though the parents hadn't been allowed to see her) this already tiny child started to lose weight as the pain and depression kicked in. There was talk of placing her on medication. (This is when the parents finally got to visit and begged their little girl to be strong, so afraid of the type of medications they planned to force onto her without the parents permission, yes cps told the parents they were well within their rights to do so)
Everyday this child was put through more and more abuse from cps. As she was taken from the grandmother's home (the caseworker said for a mental evaluation) and as the little girl was instructed at this evaluation to take off all her clothes and get on the table she had no one familiar to give her strength at this violation of her rights.
After she was returned to the grandmother the caseworker left and said nothing. And this now timid five year old girl took her 13 year old sister aside and told her what had really happened. As she described how they had touched her, how they had touched her down there and then placed something inside her. (This crushed the older sister and she told her parents) all the parents ever received was an apology for not telling them what had happened and that they usually don't have a five year old tell the parents (yeah I can imagine they are usually to scared, that's why the five year old told her sister)
Never once was there a claim of sexual abuse, molestation or physical abuse. She was taken for being short. And for this she was anal and vaginal probed. (They caseworker CLAIMED in court they where we'll within their rights, but this really wasn't true. Doing this to every single child who enters cps care would truly be abuse.)
(Fyi I have documented proof of this case)
All the importance of keeping secrets to spare a child from being teased in school over their cases is allowing some truly horrific abuse to take place. All the claims of cps in the best interest of the child is also helping to facility and perpetuate even more atrocious abuse that many children should never have ever experienced.
Now I can see the news and I even know from my own childhood that child abuse is real. But the solution and response to this for far to many years has actually caused a greater amount of child abuse than it has stopped. (Sadly I know from experience the real amount of abuse children suffer while in cps care will never be reported because abusers don't tell on themselves, not tell they've been caught, notice this pattern with cps.....it's an abuser mentality)
I can show hundreds of double standards and abuser mentality within cps very own policies, procedures and manuals but I have to find someone who will listen and look. And far to many people still believe cps is there to save and protect children.....maybe someday someone will want to see.
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