Our Grand Children are victims of;

"Protect the "system" at all costs. The "system" is the only ultimate sacred cow - not any particular law or constitution, but only "the system." Because, ultimately, it is the system which makes certain that the individuals functioning within it - from judges to lawyers, to prosecutors, to politicians, to businessmen - have their places and positions, and opportunities and pecking order, and future."

In 1696, England first used the legal principle of parens patriae, which gave the royal crown care of "charities, infants, idiots, and lunatics returned to the chancery." This principal of parens patriae has been identified as the statutory basis for U.S. governmental intervention in families' child rearing practices.

"We the People of the United States, in Order to form a more perfect Union, establish Justice, insure domestic Tranquility, provide for the common defense, promote the general Welfare, and secure the Blessings of Liberty to ourselves and our Posterity, do ordain and establish this Constitution for the United States of America."
Preamble of the original "organic" Constitution

"We hold these truths to be self-evident. That all men are created equal; that they are endowed by their Creator with certain unalienable rights; that among these are life, liberty, and the pursuit of happiness; that to secure these rights, governments are instituted among men, deriving their just powers from the consent of the governed; that whenever any form of government becomes destructive of these ends, it is the right of the people to alter or abolish it, and to institute new government, laying its foundation on such principles, and organizing its powers in such form, as to them shall seem most likely to effect their safety and happiness."
Excerpted from the Declaration of Independence of the original thirteen united states of America, July 4, 1776

Sunday, September 18, 2011

How Can Abandonment Affect Kids and Adults?

How Can Abandonment Affect Kids and Adults?

Impacts on Children

        The childhood and long-term effects of excessive parental absence can range from moderate to severe, depending on a child's age, gender, their bond with the absent adult (weak > strong), and their extended family's nurturance-level (low > high).
        Common experience suggests that when young children are physically abandoned by a parent or caregiver - or if a primary caregiver is "emotionally unavailable" (can't bond) - the kids are "badly hurt." Their hurt is a mix of...
shock, if the abandonment was unexpected and explosive; and...
confusion - many mental questions and uncertainties about the abandonment and what it means; and...
shame ("low self esteem") - feeling unlovable and unworthy, even if other adults are genu-inely nurturing and attentive; and perhaps...
guilts - feeling (irrationally) that they did something bad or wrong that caused the abandon-ment; and/or...
fears of (a) bonding with some or all adults / men / women; and that (b) their other care-givers will also abandon them, and they will die; and...
grief over (a) involuntarily broken bonds, and later, (b) over lost hopes and fantasies of reunion. If a child is raised in an "anti-grief"  family, s/he can unconsciously carry unfinished mourning into adulthood as periodic or chronic "depression."
We, as grand parents, DID NOT abandon our grand kids. They were stolen from us by a system  with proclaimed immunity through lies, false accusations, coercion, and trickery effecting our fourth amendment rights. Building a case on us by entering our house by us letting them in through fear of "we are going to take the kids". We now know that we could have said "no" when they asked to come in. We now know that entering our house due to "fear of losing the kids" is not legal because we did not know we could say no. We were fear driven.

It has been four weeks now since the kids were stolen. As far as we know, NO family member other than the recipient from North Carolina has seen these kids.
The AAG was to have Justin call us about visitation last week. He never called.
A few days ago, the kids school called to ask why we had not yet sent the kids to school. We told them why. They said they would leave their slot open for us.

We know these kids. They ALREADY have abandonment issues. Now, their nightmares have been inflicted on them by the same people purported to protect them. We know the real reason why they were taken, and the nightmares are real to the kids. If anything happens to these kids, physically or mentally, while they are not with us, we are holding the AAG, the Office of Children's Services of Alaska, the Guardian ad litum and (an unnamed party) 100% responsible.

The grand mother was herself adopted when she was 1 1/2. Reconciliation with her birth mother did not happen until she was in her forties.

The grand father comes from a large east coast family where large family reunions were common when he was young. Family was and still is important.

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